of the Guild of Stress Managers and Trauma Specialists
Adv. Dip Prof. S.M: Cert. RSV: Dip A M: Cert.
M P: Cert: 3LT
life has been an extraordinary adventure of travelling the
world and meeting some incredible people who profoundly changed
my approach and outlook on life.
Before starting out in this truly satisfying career dealing
with trauma and related aspects, I was an aesthetician and
for several years worked for Steiner and Estee Lauder helping
people feel good about themselves.
Physiotherapy, sports injuries and rehabilitation was the
next step where again I continued to make a difference in
people’s lives. It was during this phase that I became
more aware of how people naturally started to talk to me about
their problems, personal traumas and issues as well as how
their injuries were affecting their lives.
It was at this stage of my life that I realised for certain
that I could make even more of a difference and really wanted
to uncover the knowledge that would enable this to happen.
At last the path I wanted to take was unfolding; I wanted
to treat the person as a whole, both on an emotional and physical
level. Initially, I studied counselling and found this to
be a very satisfying progression.
Moving on from physiotherapy, I expanded my areas of expertise
into trauma therapy, working with people who had experienced
various critical incidents, crisis and traumatic events in
their lives. With my natural communication skills, understand
and compassion my clients quickly felt at ease.
I have now worked successfully for many years helping people
identify, understand and overcome their negative emotions,
painful past issues and trauma. My success comes in part from
my dedication, vast amount of experience, and the knowledge
and understanding I have acquired over the years.
We all have ups and downs that’s human nature and part
of our learning curve and I am no exception. My friends view
me as loyal and trustworthy with a quirky sense of humour
and appreciate my sense of fun, well most of them! It is these
attributes that help keep me positive.
and Anger management
||Abuse [both children and
and Gender Issues
[Post Traumatic Stress Disorder] and War related issues
Addictions and Alcohol Abuse
Bereavement and Anxiety
member of the Guild of Stress Managers and Trauma Specialists
Member of CMA (The Complimentary Medical Association)
Advanced Diploma in Professional Stress Management
Diploma in Anger Management
Certificate in Psychological Trauma
Certificate in Working with Survivors of Rape and Sexual
Certificate in Modern Psychology
provide support and assistance during a variety of crisis
situations including anger, violent relationships, rape and
abuse, bereavement, anger, stress and more subtle forms of
trauma e.g. discrimination, work related issues and chronic
fear and anxiety etc.
approach is always non-judgmental and non-critical.
as a Therapy
Therapy is used as a means of communicating emotions, issues
and conflicts within that person, a lot of people find this
extremely helpful in expressing and understanding their feelings,
relationships and also their self-perception of various situations.
wonderful thing about this therapy is that it is not limited
to a specific problem, addiction, post-traumatic stress or
a chronic illness. Neither does it matter if you are a child,
adolescent, adult or elderly suffering from emotional disorders
or have been abused. Using art as a therapy helps with the
treating of these traumatic events, emotional upheaval and
Therapy is extremely useful in addressing many psychological
issues including distress pain and symtom management as it
encourages personal growth, self-expression and self-belief,
especially when people find it difficult to put their feelings
and emotions into words or those who find initially talking
about their traumatic experience too painful.
picture speaks volumes."”
word “trauma” is not a word to fear, it just a
collective word to describe incidents or situations that are
outside the realm of one’s normal experience. It is
an event that is emotionally painful and distressing which
overwhelms a person’s ability to cope, leaving them
feeling powerless, overwhelmed and alone.
It’s not the actual event that determines whether it
is traumatic or not, but your own personal, emotional interpretation
of that experience. The more frightened and helpless you feel
the more likely you are to be traumatised.
type of trauma can be caused by numerous things; a single
blow, one-off events such as a horrible accident, a natural
disaster, assault, rape, sexual violence or a violent crime
that has been witnessed or experienced, it can also stem from
on-going, relentless stress.
forms of trauma such as violence, discrimination, poverty
and chaotic life conditions are directly related to chronic
fear and anxiety with serious long term effects on health
and other life outcomes. In addition to terrifying events,
there are more subtle and deceptive forms of trauma that are
pervasive and when experienced chronically, have a cumulative
impact that can be fundamentally life altering.
you have ever gone through a traumatic experience, you may
be struggling with a range of upsetting emotions, frightening
memories and feeling a sense of constant danger, or you may
be feeling numb, disconnected and unable to trust other people.
An event will most likely lead to emotional or psychological
It happens unexpectedly - you were unprepared for it - you
felt powerless to prevent it - it happened repeatedly - someone
was intentionally cruel - it happened in childhood.
trauma results from anything that disrupts a child’s
sense of safety and security including: an unstable or unsafe
environment - separation from a parent - a serious illness
- intrusive medical procedures – sexual, physical or
verbal abuse – bullying - neglect and domestic violence.
Experiencing trauma in childhood can have a severe and long
lasting effect. Children who have been traumatised see the
world as a frightening and dangerous place. When childhood
trauma is not resolved this fundamental sense of fear and
helplessness carries over into adulthood setting the stage
for further trauma.
Following a traumatic event or repeated trauma people will
react in different ways, experiencing a wide range of physical
and emotional reactions. There is NO RIGHT or WRONG way to
think, feel or respond to trauma, your responses are NORMAL
reactions to ABNORMAL events. So please don’t be critical
about your own reactions, those of other people or compare
one with another.
and psychological symptoms
emotional and psychological symptoms you might experience
are: shock, disbelief, denial, anger, guilt, shame, self-blame,
confusion, anxiety and fear, disconnection or numbness.
Some of the physical symptoms you might experience are: insomnia,
nightmares, racing heartbeat, aches and pains, fatigue, difficulty
concentrating and agitation.
These symptoms and feelings typically last from a few days
to a few months, gradually fading as you process the trauma.
But even when you’re feeling better you may be troubled
from time to time by painful memories or emotions, especially
in response to triggers such as an anniversary of the event,
an image, a sound, a certain smell or a situation that reminds
you of the traumatic experience.
Recovering from the traumatic event takes time, patience and
a certain amount of effort to work through the event; everyone
heals at his or her own pace. But if months have passed and
your symptoms aren’t getting any better or you are still
experiencing trouble functioning at work and home - suffering
depression - severe fear and anxiety - unable to form close
satisfying relationships – episodes of aggression or
explosive anger - experiencing nightmares - terrifying memories
or flashbacks - avoiding more and more things that remind
you of the trauma - using alcohol or drugs to feel better
emotionally, numb and disconnected……..you may
need to seek help from a trauma specialist who has
the experience and knowledge to be able to support you through
your recovery. Whether the traumatic event happened years
ago or yesterday, you can heal and move on.
all stress is bad.
Good Stress gives us the spark, the excitement, the yes
go for it feel and adds spice to our lives. In fact without
stress we wouldn’t even get out of our bed in the morning.
Successfully dealing with a difficult stressful problem leaves
you with a sense of achievement. Good Stress is even enjoyable
– ask any sport’s fan. Without the amazing feeling
of the Good Stress there would be no buzz, no stimulation
and no wonderful feeling of excitement. Of course, we can’t
stay on this high all the time, the secret is in allowing
ourselves to operate and function in a more balanced and relaxed
stress helps us keep alert, motivates us to face challenges
and drives us to solve problems. These low levels of stress
are manageable and can be thought of as necessary and normal
However, Negative stress is a different matter. We all have
a limit of coping threshold and we will run
into trouble if we push ourselves beyond that limit or overload
ourselves with more problems either knowingly or unknowingly.
Imagine a boiler with a broken thermostat that can’t
switch off when the temperature rises. So what happens? It
overheats; something has to give. First the boiler may overheat
causing it to short and maybe smoke but if not attended to
it could ultimately explode.
Similarly when we go beyond our limits of coping, our body
throws out physical symptoms or we have an emotional breakdown.
The latter is our mind saying "hey give me a break".
We all have varying amounts of energy available, or “get
up and go” and when this limit of our natural resilience
is surpassed we reach breaking point when we try
to deal with too many things. It may then only take a minor
unrelated problem to push us over the top.
Most of us experience stress in some form or other. There
are many levels of stress from irritation, anxiety, worry
or mild frustration, to full blown anger, rage and serious
stress. If left unchecked, these states of mind can ultimately
create physical dysfunction, malaise, depression or illness.
However, these negative emotions which also include resentment,
fear and depression can be managed once you understand them.
Being aware of your stress levels and your threshold is the
key to understanding your emotions and once you understand
them, they are easier to manage enabling you to enjoy your
life without being overloaded with pressures and negative
is a primitive emotion that has been experienced by every
living thing at one time or another. In the human species
it has nothing to do with your race, creed, religion or sex;
the problem occurs with the stimulation or trigger which evokes
the anger response. This trigger can stem from a variety of
things and as far back as something experienced in childhood
or from a more recent event. In some cases the actual trigger
might not have anything to do with the root cause but becomes
the proverbial straw....
In years gone by, man was ready to do battle with anything
that he perceived as being a problem, a danger or a threat
to himself or his tribe. His response and behaviour would
be to neutralise this threat by killing it or running away
[a typical "fight or flight" reaction]. Generally,
in this case, the short lived anger would die down and things
would return to relative normality.
often with the pressures of life today, we constantly prepare
ourselves for emergencies that never happen and so ultimately
we wear ourselves out. We just can’t run away from a
traffic jam or hit out at a bad telephone call. But our nervous
system does not understand the difference between a threat
to our ego and a threat to our physical self.
or Flight syndrome - One of our most powerful instincts
is to prepare for the "fight or flight" syndrome.
It is the key to our survival. It is the instinct which means
that when we are faced with a threat, we automatically prepare
to fight it or run away from it. Simplistically our body undergoes
a change; messages are sent from the brain for immediate changes
in the way our body functions. Adrenalin is released into
the blood stream which speeds up our reactions; our digestion
is halted and the blood is sent from the skin towards the
major muscles. This delivers the power to help us move quickly
if the need arises as all our senses are heightened for immediate
under stress this physical change in our body occurs as a
result of the body preparing for this "fight or flight"
scenario but has nothing to has nothing to fight or nowhere
to run. The end result being is the body gets all worked up
and then it has no way to let off steam; so on a basic level
that's what stress is, the fight or flight instinct that is
started but doesn't get finished properly.
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life is more complicated, not only do people have a more stressful
life to lead with their job expectations [or lack of], home
life, monetary considerations, peer pressure, their environment,
health, attitudes and expectations of themselves and others…..etc.,
the list is endless ….…but there is the potential
to more readily misunderstand or misinterpret situations involving
other people around them and close to them.
People who are on this cycle of - getting angry - fight or
flight - more anger- keep compounding their behaviour and
then act out their anger in inappropriate ways. The more the
cycle goes on the more the anger response gets out of hand
with even the most trivial things setting the person off in
a rage. Sometimes we don’t even realise that we are
angry because it has become the “norm”, a habit.
Think of it like toxic waste, weighing heavily and packed
into an old rucksack that you are carrying around. If you
are resentful, then you are full of this toxic material. The
more you carry, the more slowly you move through life, and
the more blocked you are to the giving and receiving of any
form of emotional feelings.
Anger is a felt emotion and aggression is the behaviour resulting
from this anger and is a part of life which mustn’t
be suppressed or it will turn inwards and affect us.
If it is not released it grows, and grows, and if suppressed
for any length of time it can do untold damage both physically
and mentally. This is because extreme negative emotions create
a huge amount of toxic acidity which will eventually poison
your body and manifest in a variety of ailments.
Research shows that anger and resentment are the root of many
illnesses and degenerative conditions e.g. cancer, arthritis,
cystitis, skin problems, inflammation to name a few –
there are many others.
Aim of an Anger Management Programme is:-
enable you to understand the source of your anger.
learn how to use coping mechanisms and exercise self-control
over your anger.
become aware of the situations that make you angry and
why you react in such a way.
be aware of what form your anger takes and with re-education
be able to express anger without resorting to verbal
or physical violence or any other form of aggression.
be able to control your anger and resolve issues without
having the feelings of aggression and anger.
be able to accept feedback from others without thinking
of criticism, negative thoughts and retaliation.
self-control leaves you feeling empowered and no longer at
the mercy of the violent feelings within.
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